Oyunga Pala
@realoyungapala · Nairobi, Kenya · joined 05 Aug 2009
Upright miro trying to walk straight in a crooked world, editor, writer, coach
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1. When Mrs Apunda died, the whole village wondered who would take care of this 45 year old orphan. https://t.co/ZbyGENOiPP
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1. I was the underdog, who embarrassed a cast of big-name chefs. I made it, mama! That night, off the set with the producers, I decided to send my father a text message, “I hope you are proud of your son now”. He didn’t reply. https://t.co/3hHmGcQ560
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1. He would not get off the phone. I wondered why? This was not typical of Uncle T. I looked at the timestamp. We had been speaking for fifty minutes, and he had been doing most of the talking. https://t.co/dYZ4Y4GZEg
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@realoyungapala Pole Sana.
Rev. Philip Owuor visited Me at The Nairobi Hospital as I battled Cancer - every admission, every battle.
I will miss him dearly.
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Full piece, all 20 lessons, on Alchemy of Grief.
Link below.
In memory of Rev. Philip Owuor. "Well done, good and faithful servant." Matthew 25:23
https://t.co/fo463NZfUp
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6. On Communal Grief
Do: Recognize WhatsApp fundraising funeral groups as real communal death-care and an act of love, even with all their imperfections. Don't: Let the efficiency of a funeral fundraiser numb you to the harder questions it tends to replace.
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5. On How to Actually Show Up — Men and Miscarriage
Do: Sit in the discomfort with them. Don't: Minimize the loss, offer motivational encouragement, change the topic, or fall back on platitudes about "God's will" or "God's plan."
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4. On Naming It — This Sadness Does Not Belong to You
Do: Name the grief and its true owner because it lightens what it can't yet lift. Don't: Let sadness sit unnamed and unclaimed.
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2. On Bearing Witness — Why Did They Die
Do: Witness their tears as active participation in their pain. Don't: Treat witnessing as passive observation. Its power lies in being seen.
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3. On the Right to Rage — When Sorrow Refuses Silence
Do: Trust unruly grief as a rational response to an irrational death. Don't: Dismiss loud, disordered grief as excessive or undignified.
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A few of the 20 lessons I pulled from that, and from my own losses:
1. On Presence
Do: Show up and walk alongside them through the dark and lonely nights of grief. Don't: Reach for grand pronouncements or borrowed verses. Your presence does not require eloquence.
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Pip had it in full. He didn't fix. Didn't reach for verses. He just sat still in the discomfort with you until you could stand again.
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Grief literacy (Lauren Breen, 2020) is the capacity to access, process, and use knowledge about loss, built as a community, not carried alone. Pip had it without ever naming it. So did the family that raised us both.
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He died days before I was due to give a workshop on grief literacy. Of everything his life taught me, that's the lesson that's stayed.
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Pip was a clergyman and hospital chaplain. He sat at the bedsides of the dying and helped families make sense of loss.
He was present at every funeral our family held for two decades. Our silent anchor.
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My cousin Pip had died in the night. He was my first cousin. Our parents were siblings who’d followed each other in birth order. He was over a decade older, but he’d always treated me as a peer. Aman who taught me without ever using the term.
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On Sunday morning I received an early call. I’d woken up fifteen minutes earlier, about to begin my morning exercise ritual, my sacred hour, no phones until I am done. But when the phone lit up and I saw my niece’s name, someone I had not spoken to in a long while, I just knew. h
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At the gate, he adjusts his hat, takes a deep breath, and screams:
"Jowi! Jowi! Jowi!"
He flings his hat down and launches into his dirge: "Who would buy sugar for us now? Who would teach us good table manners?"
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This is "The Wailer", a new short story about a man who has turned grief into a craft.
Read the full story here: https://t.co/yc9thu1fLC
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Oredo takes "a greedy drag," savors it, and delivers his verdict:
"This thing is smooth. You cannot even feel it in your throat. Not like the things we smoke in this village."
They laugh. They give him two full sticks, gold-tipped.
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Oredo walks up and greets them: "Poleni kwa safari."
They're surprised a stranger acknowledged their journey. Emboldened, he asks outright: "Can I taste your cigarette?"
The chubby one hands his half-smoked stick over.
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He spots the sons first. Under an Ober tree, hidden from the gate, smoking.
"They were not from around here." One with long dreadlocks, "like Ja Reggae." The other chubby, in dark glasses, holding two phones.
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On the ride, the backstory: a former headmaster, "a well known pioneer educationalist," survived by a beautiful Ugandan widow and three children, two of whom had just arrived in the village with the body.
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He didn't know the deceased. Didn't know the family. Didn't even know the way there.
But his cousin Blanda, a boda boda rider, had dropped a caterer at that same home that morning. So off they go.
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"Run to this home. I am stuck. Hold it for me."
A text message, followed by a photo of a smiling older gentleman with grey hair and spectacles.
That's how Oredo finds out where he's going to mourn today. https://t.co/MymNrU654R
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Face aux comptes de taille comparable
25 posts des 90 derniers jours, à côté de la tranche de 10K–100K abonnés. diffusé largement, mais peu de ces spectateurs réagissent.
Vues médianes4 437ce compte955médiane pour 10K–100K
Portée, %16.70%ce compte3.52%médiane pour 10K–100K
Engagement, %0.46%ce compte1.56%médiane pour 10K–100K
| Indicateur | Ce compte | Médiane pour 10K–100K | Rapport |
|---|---|---|---|
| Vues médianes par post | 4 437 | 955 | 4.65× |
| Portée (vues ÷ abonnés) | 16.70% | 3.52% | 4.75× |
| Taux d'engagement | 0.46% | 1.56% | 0.30× |
Autres comptes de cette tranche → Comparer avec un autre compte → Comment ces repères sont établis →
Growth & engagement
How the posts we collected actually performed: views and reaction rate post by post, what the audience did with them, and where the follower count goes.
Views per post
9.7K19 Aug
9.3K
8.6K
8.2K
6.4K
7.1K
5.7K
5.2K
4.8K
4.4K
1.2K
90826 Aug
7152 Sep
52616 Sep
Last 14 collected posts, oldest on the left. The scale is logarithmic: one post can outrun the rest a hundred times over.
Engagement rate per post
0.23%19 Aug
0.33%
0.25%
0.74%
0.43%
0.34%
0.38%
0.46%
0.50%
2.32%
0.93%
0.44%26 Aug
0.14%2 Sep
0.57%16 Sep
Reactions — likes, reposts, replies and quotes — divided by views. Median for 10K–100K accounts is 1.56%.
What the audience does
Likes58.4%672 in total
Reposts12.6%145 in total
Replies6.7%77 in total
Quotes0.3%4 in total
Bookmarks21.9%252 in total
Share of every reaction we collected for this account. Replies mean argument, reposts mean endorsement, bookmarks mean the post was worth keeping.
The follower curve appears once this account has two daily snapshots — we take one a day, and this one is on its first.
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