Oyunga Pala

@realoyungapala · Nairobi, Kenya · joined 05 Aug 2009

Upright miro trying to walk straight in a crooked world, editor, writer, coach

26 565Followers

617Following

10 370Posts total

153.4KViews on collected posts

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Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala16 Sep

1. When Mrs Apunda died, the whole village wondered who would take care of this 45 year old orphan. https://t.co/ZbyGENOiPP

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Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala2 Sep

1. I was the underdog, who embarrassed a cast of big-name chefs. I made it, mama! That night, off the set with the producers, I decided to send my father a text message, “I hope you are proud of your son now”. He didn’t reply. https://t.co/3hHmGcQ560

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Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala26 Aug

1. He would not get off the phone. I wondered why? This was not typical of Uncle T. I looked at the timestamp. We had been speaking for fifty minutes, and he had been doing most of the talking. https://t.co/dYZ4Y4GZEg

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Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

@realoyungapala Pole Sana. Rev. Philip Owuor visited Me at The Nairobi Hospital as I battled Cancer - every admission, every battle. I will miss him dearly. 1.2K views · 10 likes · 0 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

Full piece, all 20 lessons, on Alchemy of Grief. Link below. In memory of Rev. Philip Owuor. "Well done, good and faithful servant." Matthew 25:23 https://t.co/fo463NZfUp 4.4K views · 78 likes · 17 reposts · 8 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

6. On Communal Grief Do: Recognize WhatsApp fundraising funeral groups as real communal death-care and an act of love, even with all their imperfections. Don't: Let the efficiency of a funeral fundraiser numb you to the harder questions it tends to replace. 4.8K views · 16 likes · 7 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

5. On How to Actually Show Up — Men and Miscarriage Do: Sit in the discomfort with them. Don't: Minimize the loss, offer motivational encouragement, change the topic, or fall back on platitudes about "God's will" or "God's plan." 5.2K views · 18 likes · 5 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

4. On Naming It — This Sadness Does Not Belong to You Do: Name the grief and its true owner because it lightens what it can't yet lift. Don't: Let sadness sit unnamed and unclaimed. 5.7K views · 16 likes · 5 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

2. On Bearing Witness — Why Did They Die Do: Witness their tears as active participation in their pain. Don't: Treat witnessing as passive observation. Its power lies in being seen. 7.1K views · 18 likes · 5 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

3. On the Right to Rage — When Sorrow Refuses Silence Do: Trust unruly grief as a rational response to an irrational death. Don't: Dismiss loud, disordered grief as excessive or undignified. 6.4K views · 21 likes · 5 reposts · 2 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

A few of the 20 lessons I pulled from that, and from my own losses: 1. On Presence Do: Show up and walk alongside them through the dark and lonely nights of grief. Don't: Reach for grand pronouncements or borrowed verses. Your presence does not require eloquence. 8.2K views · 47 likes · 12 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

Pip had it in full. He didn't fix. Didn't reach for verses. He just sat still in the discomfort with you until you could stand again. 8.6K views · 18 likes · 3 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

Grief literacy (Lauren Breen, 2020) is the capacity to access, process, and use knowledge about loss, built as a community, not carried alone. Pip had it without ever naming it. So did the family that raised us both. 9.3K views · 25 likes · 5 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

He died days before I was due to give a workshop on grief literacy. Of everything his life taught me, that's the lesson that's stayed. 9.7K views · 19 likes · 2 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

Pip was a clergyman and hospital chaplain. He sat at the bedsides of the dying and helped families make sense of loss. He was present at every funeral our family held for two decades. Our silent anchor. 10.1K views · 21 likes · 4 reposts · 2 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

My cousin Pip had died in the night. He was my first cousin. Our parents were siblings who’d followed each other in birth order. He was over a decade older, but he’d always treated me as a peer. Aman who taught me without ever using the term. 10.3K views · 23 likes · 2 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala19 Aug

On Sunday morning I received an early call. I’d woken up fifteen minutes earlier, about to begin my morning exercise ritual, my sacred hour, no phones until I am done. But when the phone lit up and I saw my niece’s name, someone I had not spoken to in a long while, I just knew. h

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Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala12 Aug

At the gate, he adjusts his hat, takes a deep breath, and screams: "Jowi! Jowi! Jowi!" He flings his hat down and launches into his dirge: "Who would buy sugar for us now? Who would teach us good table manners?" 81 views · 0 likes · 0 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala12 Aug

This is "The Wailer", a new short story about a man who has turned grief into a craft. Read the full story here: https://t.co/yc9thu1fLC 75 views · 0 likes · 0 reposts · 0 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala12 Aug

Oredo takes "a greedy drag," savors it, and delivers his verdict: "This thing is smooth. You cannot even feel it in your throat. Not like the things we smoke in this village." They laugh. They give him two full sticks, gold-tipped. 49 views · 0 likes · 0 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala12 Aug

Oredo walks up and greets them: "Poleni kwa safari." They're surprised a stranger acknowledged their journey. Emboldened, he asks outright: "Can I taste your cigarette?" The chubby one hands his half-smoked stick over. 57 views · 0 likes · 0 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala12 Aug

He spots the sons first. Under an Ober tree, hidden from the gate, smoking. "They were not from around here." One with long dreadlocks, "like Ja Reggae." The other chubby, in dark glasses, holding two phones. 50 views · 0 likes · 0 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala12 Aug

On the ride, the backstory: a former headmaster, "a well known pioneer educationalist," survived by a beautiful Ugandan widow and three children, two of whom had just arrived in the village with the body. 156 views · 2 likes · 0 reposts · 1 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala12 Aug

He didn't know the deceased. Didn't know the family. Didn't even know the way there. But his cousin Blanda, a boda boda rider, had dropped a caterer at that same home that morning. So off they go. 382 views · 0 likes · 0 reposts · 2 replies Open on X →

Oyunga Pala@realoyungapala12 Aug

"Run to this home. I am stuck. Hold it for me." A text message, followed by a photo of a smiling older gentleman with grey hair and spectacles. That's how Oredo finds out where he's going to mourn today. https://t.co/MymNrU654R

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25 โพสต์จาก 90 วันที่ผ่านมา เทียบกับช่วง 10K–100K ผู้ติดตาม แสดงในวงกว้าง แต่มีผู้ชมตอบสนองน้อย.

ยอดดูมัธยฐาน4 437บัญชีนี้952ค่ามัธยฐานของ 10K–100K

การเข้าถึง, %16.70%บัญชีนี้3.50%ค่ามัธยฐานของ 10K–100K

การมีส่วนร่วม, %0.46%บัญชีนี้1.56%ค่ามัธยฐานของ 10K–100K

ตัวชี้วัด	บัญชีนี้	ค่ามัธยฐานของ 10K–100K	อัตราส่วน
ยอดดูมัธยฐานต่อโพสต์	4 437	952	4.66×
การเข้าถึง (ยอดดู ÷ ผู้ติดตาม)	16.70%	3.50%	4.77×
อัตราการมีส่วนร่วม	0.46%	1.56%	0.30×

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Growth & engagement

How the posts we collected actually performed: views and reaction rate post by post, what the audience did with them, and where the follower count goes.

Views per post

9.7K19 Aug

9.3K

8.6K

8.2K

6.4K

7.1K

5.7K

5.2K

4.8K

4.4K

1.2K

90826 Aug

7152 Sep

52616 Sep

Last 14 collected posts, oldest on the left. The scale is logarithmic: one post can outrun the rest a hundred times over.

Engagement rate per post

0.23%19 Aug

0.33%

0.25%

0.74%

0.43%

0.34%

0.38%

0.46%

0.50%

2.32%

0.93%

0.44%26 Aug

0.14%2 Sep

0.57%16 Sep

Reactions — likes, reposts, replies and quotes — divided by views. Median for 10K–100K accounts is 1.56%.

What the audience does

Likes58.4%672 in total

Reposts12.6%145 in total

Replies6.7%77 in total

Quotes0.3%4 in total

Bookmarks21.9%252 in total

Share of every reaction we collected for this account. Replies mean argument, reposts mean endorsement, bookmarks mean the post was worth keeping.

The follower curve appears once this account has two daily snapshots — we take one a day, and this one is on its first.

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Views per post

Engagement rate per post

What the audience does

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