Dr. Nicole LePera
@Theholisticpsyc · joined 25 Feb 2018
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Every marriage improves when you stop asking "what can I do to help?" and start saying "here's what I did to help, it's done."
Completing a task without asking questions is one of the highest forms of consideration.
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Here's 8 things you need to know that your psychologist might not tell you:
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Trusting your partner and feeling completely at peace when you hear their footsteps is the ultimate sign you've broken generational trauma cycles.
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Faith is key when you're healing. Faith that you can overcome even the most difficult upbringing. Faith that you can trust your mind to make good decisions. Faith that life is here to teach, not punish.
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In any relationship, you'll eventually upset someone.
The art of letting someone be mad at you:
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The final stage of healing is sitting in the quiet calm of your home feeling gratitude instead of rushing to make plans.
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People who can regulate their emotions aren't special.
They let emotions pass, instead of spiraling into them.
Here's How:
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You'd be surprised how much you can heal someone by excitedly listening to their story or their newest interest.
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Doing absolutely nothing is one of the best things you can do for your nervous system...
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@Theholisticpsyc A lot of these things can look random from the outside. But sometimes they make more sense when you ask what the person had to learn to survive. That doesn’t mean every reaction is healthy. It just means there’s usually a reason it got there.
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If you want help healing from CPTSD my private healing community @selfhealerscirc is open for enrollment.
You can enroll here: https://t.co/wto4VFcOR4
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Loving someone with CPTSD means being compassionate, patient, but also holding them accountable.
You can heal from CPTSD. You can learn to respond in new ways, to protect your energy, and to (safely) release stored trauma from the body.
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6. They have trouble keeping jobs or staying consistent: people with CTPSD go into freeze states (dorsal vagal shutdown) where their body is physically paralyzed by emotional overwhelm. They believe they're lazy, but it's actually their body in threat mode.
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5. They stay in dysfunctional relationships: they stay in situations that are harmful or dysfunctional because it's their familiar and they know what to expect. Even if they want to get out, they often get pulled back in.
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4. They dissociate: when you're taking to them you can tell they're miles away. Their eyes are sometimes glazed over and their voice becomes monotone. Even if they're responding, you can feel they're disconnected from their body.
(because they are.)
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3. They can't sit still: a physical symptom of CPTSD is the inability to sit still and relax into the moment. A deregulated nervous system creates pacing, nail biting, rocking, or feet tapping in an attempt to release sympathetic energy.
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CPTSD develops from ongoing repeated traumatic events, rather than a single event.
This can be from: childhood neglect, witnessing emotional abuse, experiencing bullying, or anything else that kept you helpless and isolated.
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2. They have trust issues: even when there is no reason to not trust someone, they struggle. They constantly look for signs they're being abandoned, lied to, or hurt in some way.
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Signs Someone Has CTPSD:
1. They can't emotionally regulate: they go through highs and lows or cycle through moods very quickly. They can't bounce back after being upset and cope through lashing out or shutting down.
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Many people have CTPSD and don't know it.
Their reactions might seem confusing or overwhelming.
6 Signs Someone You Love has CPTSD...
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@Theholisticpsyc I think the real damage happens when a child learns that “respect” means making yourself smaller. Don’t disagree. Don’t upset Dad. Don’t ask for too much. Don’t become too different. Eventually the child may look obedient on the outside while learning to hide hug
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If you're looking to heal my private membership community SelfHealers Circle is NOW OPEN for enrollment.
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His continued focus on respectful children actually creates anxious adults with low self-worth who are more prone to coping by using substances.
It creates adults who hide their pain and don't ask for help.
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Compliance comes at a price.
Have you experienced an emotionally immature father? Share in the comments...
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Because he doesn't feel internally stable, he does the only thing that gives him relief: he controls the external environment (his home) through his temper.
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Sometimes his children can become harsh reminders of what he was not. Their talents, their ability to attract partners, their academic success, or their popularity trigger the younger insecure parts of him that always felt like an outsider.
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When you start to articulate your own thoughts and opinions, he views it as a personal betrayal rather than a positive sign you're developing independence as a person.
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Their thoughts are not about how they can contribute emotionally, connect with their families and help to make everyone feel safe and resilient.
Their thoughts are: my home is the one place that should not have to put in effort.
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Subconsciously, they've learned: if my family fears me, they're less likely to do things that upset me.
This is a way to control what topics are brought up, who gets to have an opinion, how money is spent, and how people interact with him.
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Emotionally immature fathers believe their children and their marriages should be easy.
They believe obedience is love, and compliance is care.
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Against accounts of the same size
34 posts from the last 90 days, next to the 1M–10M follower range. shown far beyond its own audience, and the audience reacts.
Median views32 242this account14 648median for 1M–10M
Reach, %2.56%this account0.74%median for 1M–10M
Engagement, %1.15%this account0.70%median for 1M–10M
| Metric | This account | Median for 1M–10M | Ratio |
|---|---|---|---|
| Median views per post | 32 242 | 14 648 | 2.20× |
| Reach (views ÷ followers) | 2.56% | 0.74% | 3.45× |
| Engagement rate | 1.15% | 0.70% | 1.65× |
Others in this range → Compare with another account → How these benchmarks are built →
Growth & engagement
How the posts we collected actually performed: views and reaction rate post by post, what the audience did with them, and where the follower count goes.
Views per post
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350K18 Sep
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75.4K
Last 14 collected posts, oldest on the left. The scale is logarithmic: one post can outrun the rest a hundred times over.
Engagement rate per post
1.19%4 Sep
1.45%
0.95%
0.31%
0.34%
3.88%6 Sep
5.06%8 Sep
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1.16%18 Sep
3.53%19 Sep
3.19%20 Sep
1.26%22 Sep
3.36%
Reactions — likes, reposts, replies and quotes — divided by views. Median for 1M–10M accounts is 0.70%.
What the audience does
Likes71.0%42 355 in total
Reposts6.2%3 713 in total
Replies0.6%374 in total
Quotes0.4%216 in total
Bookmarks21.8%13 033 in total
Share of every reaction we collected for this account. Replies mean argument, reposts mean endorsement, bookmarks mean the post was worth keeping.
The follower curve appears once this account has two daily snapshots — we take one a day, and this one is on its first.
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